With Election Day around the corner, political divides grow deeper and relationships with certain friends and family members may feel increasingly strained. It leaves some wondering whether to sever ties over fundamental differences in political views.
While it's been debated for a few elections cycles, experts say the question weighs even more heavily this year.
Dr. Judy Ho, a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist and author of "The New Rules of Attachment," has seen this dilemma ramp up recently in both her personal and professional life.
"If you encounter enough people, there's going to be somebody who's not the same as your views, and some people just get so much more fired up about it, and then it becomes extremely personal really quickly," she told CBS News.
The issue has even made celeb-studded headlines, with social media users dissecting the friendship between Taylor Swift, who made waves by endorsing Kamala Harris, and Brittany Mahomes, who Donald Trump praised last month for "defending" him.
Can you remain friends with people who hold political views antithetical to your own? Experts say there are a few things to consider when it comes to navigating political divides among loved ones.
Why political differences cause problems
"Political divides are really problematic for relationships because they're often deeply intertwined with people's identities and core values," Ho said. "When the beliefs are challenged, then it feels like a much more personal attack, and it triggers a defensive reaction."
She said some research shows that when people encounter statements that contradict their deeply held beliefs, their brains react similarly to facing a physical threat.
"It puts them into a fight or flight stance, and that makes conversation impossible, because when you're in fight or flight, you're not going to have any kind of productive conversation," she said.
That's why we tend to see disagreements that lead to unfriending someone occur more often around social views, and less around something like economic policy, said Dr. Laura Vogel, psychologist and director of mental health services at Momentous Institute.
"Particularly around those social views, that's where it begins to connect to my identity as a person, who I am, what my faith is, those sorts of things," she said.
How to decide if your friendship has a future
So, how do you know when it's time to take a step back — or completely away — from a friend or family member over these disagreements?
First, assess the relationship, experts advise.
Think about how much value this person adds to your life, Ho suggests, and also consider the logistics of whether if you're going to see this person all the time at work or if they're part of your family.
"Is it going to be really that feasible to just completely cut them off?" Ho said. "If a person is of value to you in some way, is important to you, then it's important to try to work through the conflict instead of just completely shutting it out or completely never speaking to them about anything related to their beliefs."
Vogel also suggests slowing down and thinking, "If I unfriend them, what impact will this have on me?"
"When we are flooded with emotion, whether that's shock or anger or shame, none of us make really good, thoughtful decisions," she said. "Let that emotion settle and really reflect ... and then make a decision. And I can't tell anybody what that is, everyone's going to have a different range of what is best for you."
If you want to move forward with this person in your life, the next step may include having a conversation with them to better understand their views or to set certain boundaries.
"If this is an important relationship, that's where we want to really slow down and resist that temptation to make a snap decision, an impulsive decision, and then consider whether a conversation is important and necessary — a live conversation, not a Facebook conversation," Vogel said.
Your decision doesn't have to be all-or-nothing, "remain close friends" or "completely cut them off," experts say. Instead, you may decide to mentally or privately take a step back from someone but remain on amicable terms.
"If it's a person who you share friends with, you can still see each other at parties and big get-togethers, but do you need to be calling them? No, you don't," Ho said. "It doesn't have to be this huge black-and-white approach, because I don't think that that's always feasible."
Social media versus real life
The threshold for "unfriending" someone in real life compared to on social media is typically different, too.
"If you're feeling a lot of stress and anxiety every time you get on social media, and it's a handful of people that are creating that and you don't really have a relationship with them, I think it's good for us to have boundaries," Vogel said.
Ho added that "muting" is a great option if you don't want to see someone's posts without outright "unfriending" or "unfollowing" them, which they may see.
"I definitely think the bar is lower for online consumption, because we know that just passive consumption of things can really affect your mindset," Ho said.
On the other hand, real-life friends who you have more meaningful relationships with may be well worth the extra effort it takes to navigate differences.
"Our good friends can challenge us," Vogel said. "There's that argument of, 'You're in this echo chamber and you're not talking to people who have different perspectives than you.' I think good friends who care about us can come to the conversations with curiosity and be able to listen to your perspective, and then you're curious about how they've come to their perspective. But that's a much more civil conversation, typically, with a good friend where you value each other versus somebody that you really don't interact with anymore."
